The House Promise
The agreements that keep OnyxVoyage warm — for Black gay and bisexual men, and for everyone who moves through the world alongside us.
A Standing Promise
We hold this house to a higher standard than the world holds us to. These six promises are how we keep the room — and each other — safe, sovereign, and celebrated.
01 — Welcome
OnyxVoyage is built by and for Black gay and bisexual men, and warmly open to partners, kin, and chosen family. Femme, masc, trans, non-binary, in-between, still figuring it out — every facet is welcome at this table. You don't have to perform a version of yourself to belong.
02 — Consent
Consent is the grammar of every gathering, every photograph, every introduction. We ask before we tag, before we touch, before we tell. "No" needs no explanation, and "not yet" is honored as fully as "yes." Pressuring, coaxing, or wearing someone down is not flirtation — it is a violation of this house.
03 — Privacy
Members and guests are never outed, photographed without permission, or written about by name without consent. Press, social posts, and member directories operate on opt-in only. Your presence at OnyxVoyage is yours to disclose, on your timeline, in your words.
04 — Boundaries
Every member is encouraged to name what they need — quiet space, a plus-one, dietary needs, sober support, a check-in call before a date. Hosts honor boundaries without commentary. Naming a limit is never treated as fragility; it's treated as leadership.
05 — Zero Tolerance
Racism, anti-Blackness, homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, misogynoir, fatphobia, ableism, serophobia, and harassment of any kind end your membership — without debate, without apology. So does non-consensual sharing of images, conversations, or identities. We protect the room by being unflinching about who cannot stay in it.
06 — Repair
Even with the best intentions, harm can occur. Members can report concerns confidentially to a standing care committee — three rotating members and one outside advisor. We commit to acknowledging within 48 hours, investigating with care, and choosing repair over silence whenever it is possible and safe.
“The most luxurious thing we offer isn't a room or an itinerary. It's the certainty that you can arrive as yourself.”
Report a Concern
Reach the care committee at care@onyxvoyage.com. Reports are confidential by default. You decide what is shared, with whom, and when.
Ask Before You Arrive
Wondering if a gathering is right for you, your body, your relationship structure, or your access needs? Write to hello@onyxvoyage.com. We answer every note by hand.